Control
This investigation may lead into deep contemplation and then move into deep healing.
In Shamanism we are here to offer tools and help facilitate ones own movement into power and connection to Spirit, Gaia and our own guides, healing, acceptance, forgiveness and dreaming and so much more. We can help point the way.This is giving control to yourself rather than relying on an intermediary.
Many different religions have taken control of that connection leaving us, humanity disempowered and in need of a priest and dogma, taking our freedom away for our own connection and direct experience of spirit.
We can take the control back for ourselves and not surrender to the authority figures who say we are the ones you connect through. This is not an act of surrender but one of taking control in a healthy way.
In the past we were forced by fear and brutality to surrender and or hide!
The investigation is this :-
Do we feel in control or are we allowing others to control us?
Are we controlling others because we don’t feel in control in our own lives?
Are we happy to surrender to the control of others and realise that we are giving permission for that control
Do we surrender to control and then resent others?
Are we submissive or aggressive with our controlling issues?
Do we listen to control and then move into our own power and say NO?..
How do we recognise healthy control and unhealthy control?
How does control feed us? Does it make us feel safe, in control, superior, in charge.
Or is it that we have our control issues because we do not feel safe and actually in control in our own lives?
As a child we can not control our parents, for we are the innocent ones and we can only surrender to this area of control. As children we come pure and open to the teachings and guardianship of our parents and elders. If a parent abuses, we cannot stop them, we then learn that this may even be right. Even tho it is far from this! Though our childhood upbringing we form different ways of reacting to the control of other.
Only when we have grown in maturity we can choose to accept this form of control or not. It depends on our nature and how many imprints we have absorbed into ourselves.
When we start to become aware of how we act and think and notice what is negative or positive in our responses and actions, we can then start to work on healing our thoughts and feelings and change our control dramas. For this is what they are!. We can choose to feed good thoughts and reactions within our beings and we have the choice as to how we speak and act in the world.
Food for thought
Are there control issues in your life?
Are your responses to control from a deep cellular memory and are they healthy responses?
Do you feel out of control and then have the need to control others?
Are you too controlling in your own life and how you live with yourself?Does this make you feel safe?
Do you have reactions to control, authority figures, parents, partners ,friends and life situations?
Do you have to take back a bit of control for yourself in saying No when you’ve always said yes!
Upon this investigation into Control I have come to :- Control and Conscious choice.
Become the witness of your control issues. If you recognise unhealthy control issues in your life. You can step back and view them. Then choose to heal the cause of them. This can be very cathartic and can change the way you view life altogether, so be brave, be honest and move into a space of forgiveness.
There is power in surrendering to controlling situations and there is power in taking control. There is balance within both of these anomalies! Where are you within this? Can you step into your power of surrender or taking up the reins and claiming back your control?
We can be the change we want to see in the world.x
On a personal note
This has sat with me for a while and as I am witness to myself and others. I recognise that control is within me and also I have allowed others to control me. There has been fear of not being true to myself and allowing the power of others to overwhelm me and then allow their power to control what, who and how I have been in the world, this has lead to anger and resentment which has felt very unhealthy. Saying this, once upon becoming the witness to my own responses I have been able to learn, grow and become more empowered with who I am in this area of control. I have forgiven past behaviour and recognised where they have come from in my ancestry and that of others that have been part of this life experience. This has been healing and I am much more aware of control in my life
Suzanne Louise Elliott 